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Showing posts with label double standards. Show all posts
Showing posts with label double standards. Show all posts
Saturday, October 25, 2014
Balancing Work and Family
Is it just me or has equality for women suddenly become a very mainstream topic? It seems like every day there's a news story about it. It's like we finally got fed up of living the lie that we've achieved equality and decided to just tell it like it is. This week, Jennifer Garner opened her mouth to utter a simple truth. In every interview she gives, she's asked about work-life balance and yet no one has ever asked her husband, Ben Affleck, that question. "And we do share the same family." She says, "Isn’t it time to kinda change that
conversation?"Absolutely, it is about time.
Saturday, October 18, 2014
Hooray for the Baby Daddy
I like Jude Law, I really do. He's handsome, he has a great voice, and he's a wonderful actor. But it disturbed me when the many press stories that he was about to become a father for the fifth time was greeted with nothing but hoorays and congratulations and what-a-wonderful-person comments on Facebook. Literally every celebrity, media outlet and even my friends were posting this as good news.
I'm thinking, if this was a woman having her fifth child with the third father, two of whom she not only didn't marry but didn't even stay with long enough to still be in the relationship when she got pregnant, after cheating on her first husband and leaving her first family, we would crucify her. She'd be called a slut, irresponsible, a horrible person, and not fit to be a mother. And those are probably the nicest things she'd be called.
"Whilst they are no longer in a relationship," Law's rep said, "they are both wholeheartedly committed to raising their child."
What? He's wholeheartedly committed to raising a child with this woman, the last woman and the first mother of his three children? Seriously? Is anyone buying this? It's just not logistically possible if what we're talking about is raising a child. But then I realize that isn't what we're talking about. All he is expected to do, as a man, is to pay for the cost of raising the child and show up every once in a while to take them on an outing. And that's the other side of this double standard: What a woman does for her children is never enough and what a man does is insignificant as long as he pays up.
I'm thinking, if this was a woman having her fifth child with the third father, two of whom she not only didn't marry but didn't even stay with long enough to still be in the relationship when she got pregnant, after cheating on her first husband and leaving her first family, we would crucify her. She'd be called a slut, irresponsible, a horrible person, and not fit to be a mother. And those are probably the nicest things she'd be called.
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What? He's wholeheartedly committed to raising a child with this woman, the last woman and the first mother of his three children? Seriously? Is anyone buying this? It's just not logistically possible if what we're talking about is raising a child. But then I realize that isn't what we're talking about. All he is expected to do, as a man, is to pay for the cost of raising the child and show up every once in a while to take them on an outing. And that's the other side of this double standard: What a woman does for her children is never enough and what a man does is insignificant as long as he pays up.
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